How is it that some people cannot comprehend that speaking over other people consistently is insanely rude? When did this behavior get to be an acceptable thing?
Tag: #bekind
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I feel like a tinderbox today.
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Why is it that people engage in behavior that hurts them in response to
behavior from others that also hurt them?Everyone has been there or witnessed it. You’ve been wronged by, pissed off by, or neglected/ignored by someone you care about. You reach for junk food. Or booze. Or drugs. Or a knife/razor blade. Or any other self-destructive coping mechanism, including simply shutting down. All of these things are harmful to you. You – the person you’re trying to protect or comfort or calm – this hurts you. Again. And it does nothing to address the problem. And contrary to the very emotionally inspired “I’ll show them!” mentality….it does nothing at all to vindicate or validate you.
I get it. I’ve been there. I’ve done that. Repeatedly. But that realization is pretty profound. Why the hell would I hurt myself in an effort to get back at someone who hurt me? That makes absolutely no fucking sense. I am a rational person; logic is a good friend of mine. I am incredibly baffled by the fact that I thought this way – for a very long time – and never realized the horrible logic involved!
I know what it is to be stuck there, and feel like this is your way out. But what if – just for shits and giggles here – we take a second to stop, and ask ourselves what we really want and if what we’re about to do will accomplish that goal? That is an immense ask, I know. But for anyone struggling with this kinda thing – take a second, whether in the moment or not, and ask yourself these questions. The answer may change you.
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What if I’m not nice?
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I love fireflies and am so happy to be seeing them again this year.
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That’s fine, keep knowing shit, rock on!
But if you don’t know, don’t act like you do. Don’t tell someone – with gusto – that their idea or thought is wrong or can’t be done, and then give them some dumb ass, non-answer answers when they question why so that they can understand for now and in the future. This makes them question further, and you would save time, energy, and frustration for both parties if you simply fucking admit that you don’t know.
It is absolutely fine not to know. Be ok with that fact, and push yourself to learn more. It is much more detrimental to pretend that you know rather than admit you don’t. You can solve lack of knowledge. You can’t solve ignorance or ego.
Oh, and this especially applies to you acting like you know based on any sort of assumption about other people’s thoughts or actions (that you haven’t witnessed).
Today’s lesson: Pretending that you know? Asshole. Admitting that you don’t know? Exemplary human being.
That is all. Have a wonderful evening!
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If you are drunk and get bit by a mosquito, does the mosquito also get drunk? Does he fly home all cock-eyed and wobbly and shit and his wife yells at him for not being more careful about where he eats??
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What exactly is the function of the Adam’s apple, current or past?
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I have a pretty good tolerance for pain or discomfort. But. It is ridiculously difficult, once you notice a mosquito on you, to sit there and let him do his thing and then fly away. (I have been told this prevents the itchy bump from forming, and testing thus far supports that!)
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Random memory time!
Forever ago, I saw an ad for Celebrex, an anti-inflammatory drug. The narrator at one point says, “A body in motion stays in motion.” This was a cute little reminder to people to keep moving before you can’t because of your condition. Phsyics aside, I think of that quote often, even though i first saw that years and years ago. I try to use it to remind myself that I need to get up and move to keep my condition from getting the better of me.
I was just sitting here and that popped in my head and I realized it’s the one useful thing I ever got from a drug company and didn’t have to pay for. i could rant for pages about the evil of pharmaceutical companies, but I won’t. Today, I would just like to thank whoever wrote that commercial and the drug company that paid for it. 😊
A Peculiar Cerebral Tangle 