Why is anger considered a negative emotion? I mean, I know it sucks to feel it, but…. I think anger itself is actually rooted in self-preservation, which kinda makes it a positive thing, right? It’s the actions that result from anger that can be negative, not the emotion itself.
Tag: #life
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Confirmation is a beautiful thing.
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Who in their right mind actually enjoys eating black jellybeans?
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Why do people let their emotions surrounding someone else negatively impact the amount of due diligence they apply to a task that they are responsible for anyway?
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How is it that some people cannot comprehend that speaking over other people consistently is insanely rude? When did this behavior get to be an acceptable thing?
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I feel like a tinderbox today.
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Why is it that people engage in behavior that hurts them in response to
behavior from others that also hurt them?Everyone has been there or witnessed it. You’ve been wronged by, pissed off by, or neglected/ignored by someone you care about. You reach for junk food. Or booze. Or drugs. Or a knife/razor blade. Or any other self-destructive coping mechanism, including simply shutting down. All of these things are harmful to you. You – the person you’re trying to protect or comfort or calm – this hurts you. Again. And it does nothing to address the problem. And contrary to the very emotionally inspired “I’ll show them!” mentality….it does nothing at all to vindicate or validate you.
I get it. I’ve been there. I’ve done that. Repeatedly. But that realization is pretty profound. Why the hell would I hurt myself in an effort to get back at someone who hurt me? That makes absolutely no fucking sense. I am a rational person; logic is a good friend of mine. I am incredibly baffled by the fact that I thought this way – for a very long time – and never realized the horrible logic involved!
I know what it is to be stuck there, and feel like this is your way out. But what if – just for shits and giggles here – we take a second to stop, and ask ourselves what we really want and if what we’re about to do will accomplish that goal? That is an immense ask, I know. But for anyone struggling with this kinda thing – take a second, whether in the moment or not, and ask yourself these questions. The answer may change you.
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What if I’m not nice?
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I love fireflies and am so happy to be seeing them again this year.
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That’s fine, keep knowing shit, rock on!
But if you don’t know, don’t act like you do. Don’t tell someone – with gusto – that their idea or thought is wrong or can’t be done, and then give them some dumb ass, non-answer answers when they question why so that they can understand for now and in the future. This makes them question further, and you would save time, energy, and frustration for both parties if you simply fucking admit that you don’t know.
It is absolutely fine not to know. Be ok with that fact, and push yourself to learn more. It is much more detrimental to pretend that you know rather than admit you don’t. You can solve lack of knowledge. You can’t solve ignorance or ego.
Oh, and this especially applies to you acting like you know based on any sort of assumption about other people’s thoughts or actions (that you haven’t witnessed).
Today’s lesson: Pretending that you know? Asshole. Admitting that you don’t know? Exemplary human being.
That is all. Have a wonderful evening!
A Peculiar Cerebral Tangle 